In case you didn’t know, this past Sunday was National Friendship Day (originally created by Hallmark to sell more cards, it’s now a legit day to celebrate the friendship between people, countries and cultures). There’s an United Nations world ambassador for friendship and everything; it’s Winnie the Pooh, which is adorable.
Anyhow, this got me thinking about the importance of friendship, my own friendships, and how they’ve changed over time.
When you’re at school and university, you spend time with people your own age constantly; it’s fairly easy to make friends in these circumstances as they’re basically ready and waiting. It’s once you get older that it becomes harder to find people on the same wavelength as you, who are also available to hang.
I’m lucky really, that my two sisters are my best friends. We’ve always been close, and even though we live hundreds of miles away from each other, we still talk pretty much everyday, and we make sure we meet up regularly. I recently got married, and I chose them to be my joint Maid of Honour, they did an amazing job (including a speech!) and I don’t know what I’d do without them.
Yesterday I got some bad news and experienced a real set-back; I don’t want to go into too much detail on here but it was a shock. When I go through something I don’t like to shout about it, I’m actually quite a private person and you’ll never see my airing my ‘dirty laundry’ on social media. Instead, I turn to my sisters, my best friends. I know that when I tell them how I truly feel, they will never judge me, ignore me or make me feel alone. They’ve never let me down, and I hope that I never let them down.
Unfortunately I have met a number of people who have let me down throughout my life, people who seem to be friends on the surface, but deep down don’t care about you at all. I don’t understand these people, and I’m starting to think I never will. One of the benefits of growing older and gaining more experience with friendships is that you begin to see the fake behind the smiles and the insincerity of their words, though some still manage to slip through the cracks.
I’m not really sure where I’m going with this post, suffice to say that if you do have true best friends, then cherish them, especially if they live close by. Pick up the phone, go for a coffee, or jump on a train for an impromptu trip to the seaside; loneliness is a killer but with true friendships you’ll never be truly alone.
Thank you to Deramores for kindly sending me some knitting wool to create a friendship bracelet to celebrate National Friendship Day.